Today was a long day. Rocky really pushed some buttons today. I am a very patient person but he can really do some things that drive us crazy. He hits and bites. He has only bitten once and he sat on a chair for a bit until he realized he did something wrong. He also hits. He hits other people when they are talking to him. We finally asked a man to translate some things for us and he said he is confused. No one speaks his language. It is very hard on him the man said. Rocky also kept whispering something in Dan's ear and of course we don't know what it is so we asked this man and he said that Rocky is saying he wants a big house in America. I guess in so many words this is what he said.
Rocky is a wonderful boy but definetly needs some things to work on. Today we did make progress with food. He did share a chip with another boy around his age. This was huge to us. He always would look away when we would see this boy. Then we told him to share and he did. We were very happy.
He is always on the go. He wants to run, jump. play. climb all the time. It is hard to do this here because of being locked up in this room. We played with bubbles today and he loved this. We also played with a small ball in the hall. He kept running after it.
We talked to our facilitator today and she was pulled over twice by the police today. They actually pounded on the front of her car once. She said she was very scared. She said they wanted money or her battery. She said it was not a good day for her.
It rained a lot today but we were able to walk to the market for lunch. Again Rocky had a break down. The waitress felt so bad she went behind the counter and gave Rocky a bag of 3 large rolls in it. He was ok after this. He held on to those rolls like there was no tomorrow.
Also when we were eating at the restaurant the floor above was doing some welding and all these sparks were flying on the floor we were on below. The sparks kept dropping down on all the things below and people just kept walking by like it was nothing. Dan and I just chuckled/
Rocky sleeps a lot but tonight he went down a little more difficult. I rock him now but he sings a song that I am not sure what it is and he sang it for a long time until he feel asleep. I am sure it is soothing to him but tiresome for Dan and I. He is very lovable because he will cuddle with us and now is kind of kissing me. But he can also get very angry. It is hard to work on the issues here. It just isn't like home.
Another family adopting a boy around the same age is also having issues but his issues are that he doesn't talk at all. He tried hitting an interpreter here today helping the kids communicate with us. It seems when someone can talk with Rocky in Lingala he is sooooo good. But he ignores us. I guess all we say is te which means no in Lingala. I am more for positive reinforcement but I can't give it to him cuz I don't know the words so I smile a lot at him when he does something good.
We will get through these struggles. Every day there is a little progress in some things but then can also be more things going on. He likes attention good or bad now. So we try to ignore the bad if we can. We will make it and he will be a wonderful child.
Please pray for us that God will give us the strength and patience for this time in our life.
Love and hugs to you all
Heidi
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